(272) Lost

Life at its peak of uncertainty, unpredictability, instability, while wandering on the crossroads of disorientation and faithlessness!!

(266) Live life before life leaves you

Disclaimers:

Ø  This has not been written with an intention to preach anyone.

Ø  It’s a self reminder kind of thing about beliefs I held all through, with a hope to help others who may find similitude with my thought process.

While browsing through net, I stumbled upon an Indian obituary website, where again by chance I learned about the demise of one of my ex colleague from past beyond nine years. If not for this site, my memory had completely erased his being from my mind, as I had conversed with him only on a very professional stratum. Yet, a glimpse of his posted picture, strikingly reminded me of his ever smiling face, cheerful conduct with everyone on the floor, and the obviously visible zest in his maneuver towards life, career and dreams to grow big. He passed away in 2013, and he was about 37 years of age as mentioned in the details.

So, if I had to die at the same age, what am I left with right now? A few years on my hand versus thousands of plans to be executed. Am sure, he would have been the same, and for that matter everyone of us, living in this times are somewhat akin, when it comes to performing the act called life.

It is not at all wrong to be ambitious, or to carve out the future plan, but it is equally important to live the life we have in present. In the race to compete with fellows, we stop looking at the blessings we are bestowed with, and eventually we start living lives on autopilot, with bodies doing mechanism, brains running directed chores, and soul wandering and struggling to find life amidst this chaos.

I strongly believe and always tell my people, my family, closest friends that life is in this very moment. Live it to the fullest with being the best person possible. But to confess myself and as mentioned by my loved ones, I often fail to follow my own principles, I give into the pressures of life, think more than necessary, worry for things which may really never ever happen, get annoyed and irritable, lose faith and at times act in not so affable ways. Basically, I forget to live, to enjoy what I am conferred with and directly or indirectly it not only impacts me, but also  people around me and the relationships I share with them.

Sharing some views, that I think, if put in practice, will undeniably make life more meaningful and fulfilling.

·         Be grateful for what all you have and be more giving, help the needy, we are not going to take anything with us when we leave for good, except for the love and blessings we have earned.

·         Be more forgiving, kick off that ego, don’t hold grudges against others for long. Don’t talk bad about others as far as possible. Apologize for your mistakes & try to assemble broken bonds, but don’t hell bend on doing so, maintain self respect, give your best and leave on the other person and time to decide.  God never gives you the challenge you can’t handle. Be optimistic.

·         I  believe, “whatever happens, happens for good”. So do your karma, the best possible one and leave unto the universe and the energies within to respond to your deeds. All that is meant for you will definitely come to you. Have faith, have patience.

·         Life is very unpredictable. Before the call for the godly abode strikes on you without notice, make sure you have lived a life you would feel thankful for, you have done enough for your fellows known and unknown, you have done your bit to support the survival of your mother earth, mother nature.

·         Don’t keep things for tomorrow. Do all that you like. Complete  that pending special holiday, dress up the way you like, read your favorite books, sing, dance, jump, eat, paint, yell, drink, get drenched in the rains, skid on the snow, ride that bike, kiss all you want, fall in love, make love, embrace life with open arms….don’t stress if you are not able to do everything you wish for..but at-least..give it a try! Believe me..it’s worth it!

·         Love is the greatest tool, boon, art, aid, sense, ability, gift, honor and blessing that we all have been bestowed upon by the very nature which gave us birth. Let us all be more loving, kind, generous, grateful, helpful and add more values to our own lives and to the ones that thrives around us. Propagate enough love and disseminate it in everything you do, it’ll keep you alive even after you are gone.

There’s still a lot I would wanna talk, but may be some other time. Perhaps, I am turning quite emotional at this moment. So I end here for now by sharing a video on a girl who died two days after it was shot. Don’t miss it my friends, please do watch it!!

Aisha

With Loads of Love..Mita

(246) Let me be optimistic about life !!!

I had something else to write about, when I logged in here. I happened to read by chance one of my recent posts on this blog. I ended it saying" whatever happens, happens for good". Yes, I believe it so. But today, my conscience is asking me again and again, is it really so, that whatever happens, happens for good. If it is so, why few things occur wrong to us after they occur. Why we do not like some event of life, when they turn out to be?. Why do we feel left out or inferior, when we do not get everything that the other one has got? Well...I think it is very much in the mind. It's very psychological. Chalo, leave it, we will take it up some other time. Mood change...will talk about something else.

Dheeraj's colleague, I think I wrote about her few days back. Everyday after work, she is out meeting friends and enjoying her life. She often tells me that Mita, go and enjoy before the summer and autumn disappears. Winters will be harsh, depressing and dark. I understand that she has lived three winters here and she knows situations better than any of us do, and hence I try to relate to what she says, but not very seriously though. Morning till now, has been a kind of pre-cap of the winters. Dark, chilly, windy, but accompanied with endless rains. Rains, you very well know, brings out the best/rather worst of me. It turns me emotional and more wanting. And today it rained mercilessly, with a backdrop of black clouds, thunders, and no sun at all. When we went out to pick up Nishka, though I took umbrella for rains, but forget to wear any warm cover, and both, Charvi and I were literally shivering. Goose bumps showing up, hair waving to winds, and face kissing the breeze. If Charvi would'nt have been with me then, I would have definitely let myself get drenched in the rains. You know, how I love to be in unison with the falling waters. Back home, served lunch, put kids to sleep, and then I sat wondering, why is it thus, that after each interval of few months, I tend to go into some kind of self criticism mode and self pity mode? Need to work on it...And that reminded me of the enriching conversation, I had with a friend over phone on Sunday. My Gyan Guru, advised me to be happy, of course, friends for that matter will always want you to be happy, right? Well...the teachings said, that I need to focus on what is here, in present and not to think or worry about past and the future, which is not in my control. And to train the mind in a way, that it learns to accept the disapproval of the time, fate and people. I may not get everything that I long for. Fair enough, I agree. But it's not that easy, if it would be, there would be no pains in the world. 

Alright, but it's not that difficult too....!!

Hmmm..okay...Further instructions said, that I should learn to respect myself, think about my happiness too and stop worrying about what others have to think, say ,believe or do...as they are not in charge of my life, but I am.

Okaayy..got it..revisiting the entire conversation mentally, I felt good and thought of having a cup of coffee. Till the time, I beat the coffee, thoughts were churning simultaneously in my mind. I thought, why is it so, that always I crib of being left alone, and of being treated unfair. Why not for a change, this time, I will agree to disagree with my pessimism, and agree to agree with the fact, that if I focus on being more optimistic and practical, in a course of time, I may becomes so. Till when, will I keep running away from the hard turns, why not face it head on, why not for once, accept that life do not work in a fixed pattern, why not just let myself flow in it's flow, why not for once, stop fighting with life and stop resisting it's natural course? Why not enjoy life as it comes?..Hmm!! What's the harm in trying?

Generally, I don't prefer giving caffeine to kids, but today, I wanted a coffee partner for sure, missing by my side, so I made two cups, one for myself and one for Charvi.

Guess what, very filmi though, the time when I decided to lit up my sun in the heart, the real sun too decided to show up.I am having my coffee right now, with the sun-rays growing up on me every minute.Time to pull the curtain down, and I am sure, pulling it down would not, in any ways, take away the sunshine. It seems, it's lit up bright enough by now.

You know what, I always want to be positive, happy and spread the same cheer in my surroundings, and I also work towards it, but I think my biggest hurdle, enemy in my path of happiness, is my expectation. I have seen, whenever I expect less or don't expect anything from the other person, I don't feel hurt, but the moment I do, I start feeling insecure. Best way is to give all that I can, and expect nothing in return. That way, I don't have to stress and wait for the returns, and if at all I get something back, it's a treat.

And.....and...I never knew, someday, my own blogpost would help me cheer up myself and remind me, that life is beautiful and too short to be unhappy.Nothing is permanent. I might have wasted so many beautiful moments of my life by thinking of something else, when they had come to meet me..and then miss them later. Similarly, I may be turning my back on the beauty of life in present, by living in past and worrying about future. I read a post on assorted mirages and felt good to know that..yes I do write some sensible stuff as well....Cheers!!!

(241) If only

If only...life was thus!!! An endless, ego less, beautiful conversation supported with all those emoticons to show up where words don't find their way!!!!

(233) Life is in this moment

Life is here..life is in this moment. Over and again we hear this, seldom understand. Time itself teaches this to us through various ways and yet we seldom understand. If we did realize, we would be more into living and less into making a living. Tirelessly we labor to make a living which of-course is essential, but on the way to perform this essential errand, we somewhere lose the very purpose of doing so and that is to make us live better.

We wait for one special thing to happen. We hope, we pray, we slog, we take vows and we keep waiting. The waiting seems endless and the happening of that special thing far, but soon that happens, stays for short time and the moment passes away. We aim for yet another special thing to happen and so the waiting thing again..and so on and so forth. But when does that special thing happen. It doesn’t come in one or two particular events and occurrences, it is there wrapped in every moment irrespective to whom it belongs and that is send by god, alike the blood present in every vein of our body irrespective of its location and function. We need to recognize this very simple thing that there is nothing like the special or unique moment waiting for us..it is we who make it thus with our actions. It is our people who make it thus with their presence. It is the faith within that keeps it alive. It is the trust in almighty that it does survive. It is the acceptance, approval, forgiveness and sharing of love, kindness and aid that make it the special moment.

Let us try and live in the present moment. The one from the past can never be resumed, the one belonging to future can never be called before its due…and hence whatever we have hold onto is this very moment, wherein we can choose to do what we want. Either love it, embrace it, respect it, live in it wholeheartedly, happily, filled with gratitude for experiencing it and spreading cheer to others…OR…waste it, ruin it, disgrace it by lamenting about/affixing to the past..& or worrying about the future…Choice is yours…choice is ours.