(267) Thank you & love you Rishika!!

I am posting the words written by a dear friend Rishika who came into my life not very long ago, but has undoubtedly become a beautiful part of it and a dear darling to me.She happens to be my younger brother's friend but is now a friend to me as well.
This post is dedicated to her but is also being written with one same old selfish motive..that is..to keep for my records and memories so that I can refer to and feel uplifted in my dark times.lotsa love to you sweetheart.

Here goes the beautiful words by her and with her due permission...copy pasted as it is..




"[3:50PM, 15/02/2015] Rishika Chakraborty: Hey didsu...

[4:29PM, 15/02/2015] Rishika Chakraborty: Apse bahut sari baat kehni h...d sole reason for y we got to know each other is ur poems...but  over d time i have realised that gradually instead of reading ur poems I read ur blog posts...specially the ones on seekingcerebralimmunity....I have become addicted to reading those even if I have so much work piled up for d day....I have read all ur posts starting from ur first love to d one which u wrote just few days back....I felt as if I actually lived all those moments just like u did...whether it b about riding a bike without informing anyone and leaving everyone left with no other option to search for u....or ur childhood days...or ur love for short hair and later charvie's love for ur long hair...or d moments u struggled wid nishka's demand for seeing her father that very moment....every moment....

Bt to tell u d truth...I have started luvng u be oz of d positivity which u have for lyf...each post of urs ends wid d lessons which u learnt from that very incident...

While reading ur posts I cud relate my lyf in many ways...I had tears in my eyes becoz I cud easily understand wat u must have gone through in those tough moments ...ur luv fr family...ur fears as a daughter...ur concern fr ur brother...d moments wen u wer missing ur mom...

Wat I have analysed is that whatever may b d situation..howsoever tough it was...u tried to find d goodness in d same...I salute that approach and spirit of urz...d way u luk at lyf...

May god bless u  and give u d opportunity to c a day when ppl will cm and introduce u by saying, "Come, meet the proud mother of two extraordinary professionals and most importantly two most wonderful human beings Charvie and Nishka...!!"

I don't know whether I will b there to witness 
That moment...bt us din ap mujhe yaad karna...and beliv me...that day will surely come into ur lyf...my blessing for both of them...

Love...love...love....for such a wonderful person I know...its u...my Mita di😘

[4:47PM, 15/02/2015] Rishika Chakraborty: I always beliv that important words r to b said...I shud not sit and regret that I didn't say wat I felt...I fear this feeling...

That is y I am writing this to u...Meri iccha thi ki mai apse ye sab kuch kahu tab ap mere samne ho...taki mai apke expressions dekh saku...apke India ane se pehle roz mai Chetan ko ek hi question puch puch k pareshan karti hi ki didi kab ayegi..aur apke ane k baad ki didi ko lekar kab ghar aoge...unfortunately we didn't get much tym to talk...but still...don't forget...I luv u..."

(224)Last Memoirs of Hyderabad

Hi,

Been a gap of six months since I have been here..have so much to share that you will get sick of reading it all.For now am posting the last email conversation I had with the members of my Apartment community(Aparna Sarovar) in Hyderabad, before we left that place.

Here is the mail which I wrote and in the following are the beautiful responses giving me farewell...(One selfish interest behind posting it here is that these beautiful memories will stay forever with me)

"Hello Everyone…Good morning,Pardon me sarovarites, if this mail turns a tad lengthy and/or emotive, but I can’t leave Aparna before having said this. As less than a week left to move out of this beautiful place, I want to thank the entire community to have added in enriching in a way or other, our experience of living here for last two years. Though this is the sixth relocation in our marriage of circa nine years, never earlier have I felt so miffed about moving out. My kids, my husband and of course myself are completely in love with this place. We are hauling along with us, the delightful memories extending from – living in midst of wonderful plantations, benefitting from the sports and other amenities close at hand, building friends with amazing people, relishing the food exchange with awesome neighbors, enjoying the cultural events, and, and & upto....its a long list to go. I personally revered the opportunities to choreograph for the kids twice and dancing out dead myself during navratris and new years, very rejuvenating. There are also reminiscences etched out in my mind as regard to the people I don’t know in person but have crisscrossed with numerous times and to quote a few—wonderful mothers tirelessly administrating various activities for their kids -always enthused me, a stunningly beautiful lady( presumably in her 50s) each time i saw - inspired me to keep the zest on high, a pair of white pigeons - who sparked off friendship between me and a lovely female in F block, a gentleman cascading equal adore and attention simultaneously onto his baby and his pet(a dog) whilst playing with them in morning hours in green lawns - often motivated me to be more spirited about life and gratified of what we have, reading the email trails on apnacomplex- augmented my way of understanding various people…. wellll…..the roll again is endless…In a gist, we had a great stay here in Aparna Sarovar, and we look forward to being a part of this family in future again if time and prospects permits. Hope to find this place as effervescent and amorous whenever we see you folks again…Have a great time….Thanks again..On behalf of my family & myself Mita"

The Replies in converse...

1) That's indeed very beautifully put Mita,Wish you a great stay at your next destination and memorable experiences forever. Cheers!Swati

2) Dear,Its people like U,ll who have made Aparna, what it is today.We are saving Ur message, so that it tides us over, whenever, as senior citizens, we will feel low about life in general.Our heartfelt blessings for Happy Days ahead. Our Prayers to God for putting brakes on Ur frequent moves.God Bless.Mr. Porendra Pratap

3)Vijay Namburi(Secretary-ASOWS) Thank you Mita for your kind words! IT makes all of us feel proud! Vijay.

4) Dear Mita n fly..Though I have not met you, with so many friends you have in this habitat, you most welcome here anytime. Kudos to you observation and presenting your feelings of Aparna Sarovar. Pray you and your family has the best future with prosperity wherever you are and wherever you go. God bless you all.nagamani

5) It is generally said that when you are buying a home for living and esply if its the first purchase don't fetter too much on finances. Reason being it's about the memories the kids, the elders and yourself carry of your home and the happiness that accompanies. I wasn't bought in much to this idea but having lived in sarovar, I now fully realize how wonderful this place has been and every penny spent has been worth it. Thanks Mita for sharing your thoughts so eloquently and good luck for future. Cheers Ramesh

6) Thanks for reminding us about the blessings of aparna and also making us realize the need to count our blessings and not take them for granted. I have not met u though we may have bumped in to each other at some  beautiful part of AP...May God bless you and your family with health,wealth and peace!andal

7) Hi, Thank you so much for the awesome message and the  sentiments so nicely expressed .Above all, the most important thing is to respect every one and count on the joyful life our Apana Gaon gives us.All the very Best ..LS Murthy 

8) Dear Namburi,To avoid our community from becoming too impersonal, the MC can take the lead in organizing small farewell contributory functions over a cup of tea, in the club-house, to residents who are leaving the community. The immediate neighbors & friends of the departing resident can take the lead in this regard.For the beginning it can commence with Mita & family.Mr. Porendra Pratap 

9) Hi Mita,First time I see I someone really write so nice about Sarovar. Honestly, this is such a wonderful place to be. I have been to lot of other communities around but trust me none have been so Jubilant. Thanks to the previous and the current MC and people of Sarovar for making it so delightful.Though we haven't met, your email talks about your personality. Wishing you good luck ahead.Regards,Ravi Reddy

10) Very well expressed, Mita! May your next move be to sarovar again :) or any other place abroad, as I believe sarovar is the best place to live in India. I wish you continue at a nice place for 10+ yrs as shifting often is really painful ( me 9yrs, 8 moves..)Wishing you and your family, goodluck and peace in all your endeavours! Liked ur caption;) Regards Priyanka

11) Me again....Hi....Smiles and tears came rushing throughAfter reading one and all of you,Heart filled with more gratitudeThank you all so very much for echoing my feelings in your own sweet words and ways, and of course for the sincere blessings and wishes. Keep the smiles rolling...stay blessed...Regards..Mita                       ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Will come back soon to you with all that I missed on saying in last six months and all that which is up happening right here...

(202) Problem-Solution

Two days back, I happened to come across a beautiful thought process regarding the problem and problem solving skills. So without giving the prologue to how and why the entire tete-a-tete took place, I choose to mention the gist of the entire chat, assuming it may sound helpful to few, as it did appear to me.

So,

There are two possibilities

1.       You really don’t have any problem existing, but it may appear to you so, because of over and repeated thinking of having one. So stop thinking you have a problem.

2.       There genuinely is a problem. In this case,

·         Think over agreeably and identify the problem.

·         Accept it and accept the reality.

·         Think of the probable solutions and pin down the best amongst them.

·         If you don’t find any solution then either leave the problem or learn to live with it.

·         And a still better option is, to concentrate on other’s problems, it may help divert your attention from your pain.

 

I thought about the above points and added few more from my side,

It says,

 

·         Also seek the forgiveness.

-          Forgiveness from god.

-          Forgiveness from self.

-          And if possible, also from the person, if any, involved and got hurt.  

·          And if the problem has arisen out of no faults of yours…then perhaps you are being tested for your faith.

·         If you have lost something/someone, which/who used to be with you until now, then perhaps this was all that you deserved to get.

·         If you did not get what you always wished for/worked for, then perhaps it was never meant for you, you were never meant for it.

·         Also, while thinking of other’s pain, one can also strive to solve them or help the person in pain to come out of the same.

·         Think of all the good things happened in life, good times spent with loved ones, remember all the laughter, the smiles, the happy moments, the gifts, the beautiful talks, the admiration, and the many more sweet exchanges occurred between you and your people.

·         Engage yourself in all the activities which may not only be constructive and helpful, but also be beneficial to keep the thoughts of pain and failure at bay.

·         Most importantly, learn to be content. Respect what you have got and accept that what you got was all you deserved and don’t fret about not getting what you did not. Perhaps, that might ruin the charm of the times bygone that left behind the loving memories.

·         Think of those who are less privileged than you, who got everything less than you.

·         If you have received enough love in any form, from any relationship, in any measure, at any stage of your life- to think of it and smile about, then consider yourself lucky enough to keep happy. Stop moaning, start living life with a smile.

·          Expect less, give more.

·         Have faith in the almighty, he will take care of you    all the time.

 

Huge expectations and non/less acceptances- of the situations in life have always put me in pain. And am sure lot of people, have the same complaint.

Let’s expect less, accept more, complain less, rejoice more, take less, give more, hate never, love more…..forgive more…be happy more and make happy more.

……………………….while I had finished thinking through all the above, a message dropped in my phone at around 4.35am …which said….

“In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.”- Buddha…

What a timely message to befit the closure to my thoughts on the above concern.

(190) Admiration

 

Talking with this friend over the years..one word has got pasted in my mind with his image, and that is ‘Admiration’.

Yesterday, while watching a small piece of a movie, I heard this word and straight away  got travelled into the time, whenever I spoke with him and he used the word ‘admiration’ for a particular girl. Well, not advisable to take his name here, as his wife might take this whole thing in a wrong way. So we will call him ‘him’. He was in love with a beautiful Kashmiri girl, whom he could not marry. Eventually, after moving on, he liked another girl, equally beautiful and sensible, whom he persuaded to be a part of his life and they are together. They are happily married and settled with their kid. God bless their family.

               Ok, now about the word ‘admiration’, here is the story narrated as per his version. There was a girl whom he met several years ago, and developed a kind of approbation towards her. What he liked most or least about her, is still a mystery to me. Because whenever she came in conversation, she came with a tag, ‘admiration’. He always said that he had a stout admiration for her.

       I have often wondered, what that admiration word could mean in his case. Of-course, I know the meaning and probable applications of it, but still, it leaves me lost in the qualms of variables, as I know both of them as individuals. I thought I would ask him someday, but then I decided to leave it as it was ,because vindication would hardly make any difference in their relationship, or so I assume. But what interests me here, is the passion he exhibits while using this word. And mind it, he never ever used any other word or words to talk about his affiliation with her. And that’s what makes it more appealing.

       However, though she doesn’t sound to be the most important person of his life, but if I recall the way he emphasizes about the beauty she has brought into their bonding, I feel, her existence is significant for him. And so yet again, I am forced to think, how can a mere admiration thing make someone so crucial in else’s life. Because if I go by the dictionary meaning of it, it tours me around gestures of respect, approval or rather awe(on the romantic side)….but none of these gives me a reason to think, that sheer veneration can make someone so imperative.

So now, my course of action (after watching that piece of movie) is to make him explain me what the word ‘admiration’ means in his dictionary. Who knows, may be, it was all just about the way he narrated the story to me and I over comprehended it, or may be, he  reasons it out in a fashion that’s appropriate for everyone involved.

  If I had to admire something, I would do so, and perhaps, over the period of time, I would forget about the same if I am not made to encounter with it again and again… I repeat if that was to be just an admiration….and if I had, had this mount of emotions for someone, then may be , I would not have had used just(only) the word, ‘admiration’.

Over to you…if you ever read this…and get coached up with an answer before you next call me…

 

Some quotes on the subject…

“There is an innocence in admiration: it occurs in one who has not yet realized that they might one day be admired.”  - Friedrich Nietzche

“Have you ever felt the longing for someone you could admire? For something, not to look down at, but up to?” – Ayn Rand

“ever since I met you I have admired you more than any girl...I have ever met since...I met you.”  - Oscar Wilde