Talking with this friend over the years..one word has got
pasted in my mind with his image, and that is ‘Admiration’.
Yesterday, while watching a small piece of a movie, I heard
this word and straight away got
travelled into the time, whenever I spoke with him and he used the word ‘admiration’
for a particular girl. Well, not advisable to take his name here, as his wife
might take this whole thing in a wrong way. So we will call him ‘him’. He was
in love with a beautiful Kashmiri girl, whom he could not marry. Eventually,
after moving on, he liked another girl, equally beautiful and sensible, whom he
persuaded to be a part of his life and they are together. They are happily married
and settled with their kid. God bless their family.
Ok, now
about the word ‘admiration’, here is the story narrated as per his version.
There was a girl whom he met several years ago, and developed a kind of approbation
towards her. What he liked most or least about her, is still a mystery to me. Because
whenever she came in conversation, she came with a tag, ‘admiration’. He always
said that he had a stout admiration for her.
I have often
wondered, what that admiration word could mean in his case. Of-course, I know
the meaning and probable applications of it, but still, it leaves me lost in
the qualms of variables, as I know both of them as individuals. I thought I would
ask him someday, but then I decided to leave it as it was ,because vindication
would hardly make any difference in their relationship, or so I assume. But what
interests me here, is the passion he exhibits while using this word. And mind
it, he never ever used any other word or words to talk about his affiliation
with her. And that’s what makes it more appealing.
However, though
she doesn’t sound to be the most important person of his life, but if I recall
the way he emphasizes about the beauty she has brought into their bonding, I feel,
her existence is significant for him. And so yet again, I am forced to think,
how can a mere admiration thing make someone so crucial in else’s life. Because
if I go by the dictionary meaning of it, it tours me around gestures of
respect, approval or rather awe(on the romantic side)….but none of these gives
me a reason to think, that sheer veneration can make someone so imperative.
So now, my course of action (after watching that piece of
movie) is to make him explain me what the word ‘admiration’ means in his
dictionary. Who knows, may be, it was all just about the way he narrated the story
to me and I over comprehended it, or may be, he reasons it out in a fashion that’s appropriate
for everyone involved.
If I had to admire something, I would do so,
and perhaps, over the period of time, I would forget about the same if I am not
made to encounter with it again and again… I repeat if that was to be just an
admiration….and if I had, had this mount of emotions for someone, then may be ,
I would not have had used just(only) the word, ‘admiration’.
Over to you…if you ever read this…and get coached up with an
answer before you next call me…
Some quotes on the subject…
“There is an innocence in admiration: it occurs in one who
has not yet realized that they might one day be admired.” - Friedrich Nietzche
“Have you ever felt the longing for someone you could
admire? For something, not to look down at, but up to?” – Ayn Rand
“ever since I met you I have admired you more than any
girl...I have ever met since...I met you.” - Oscar Wilde
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