(115) Thought Worth Believing

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I was not really very willing to come up so soon with something on this blog and also I really don’t have any idea who reads my blog anymore besides my brother and few good friends. But I want to encourage my readers to give a thought to the thought I am gonna share today.

Two beautiful messages received early this morning. One said-“The person who loves you a lot will always do two things extremely for you. Silently Caring and Openly Hurting to make you perfect”. I read, replied and went to bed again, but couldn’t get back the sleep. My mind kept juggling with the thought forwarded through message. I wondered, if that was so true, why is it so difficult for us to forgive those beloved of ours who do wrong to us. Is it really so tough and testing to let pass the hurt feelings? Why do we hang on to the reasons and keep hurting ourselves by reliving the sad moments in the memories, though at the same time we desperately want the bad to get over and good to return through those lovely faces and voices which made our lives more meaningful and without whom life seems to be a punishment? Years ago, I lost two good friends because they lied to me and could never befriend them again, no matter, I have already forgiven them long back. I can’t tolerate people who lie to me, misuses my trust or back stabs me. Well, that’s about me..but why is the act of forgiveness not so prevalent in routine life?

What is the problem then? It has to do much with human nature. We are not born with egos or calculations, but we imbibe them eventually while growing into adults and thereby losing onto the innocence we held being children. A child’s love is pure, unconditional and effervescent. Every individual holds the experience of being in such love in the childhood, but fails to cling onto the same throughout or learn through it and gradually loses the grip on it while acquiring the more practical and sensible ways of living.

Wise people said, “Do to others as you would have them do to you!” If I want to be forgiven, I first need to impart forgiveness from my end. And, most importantly I should learn to forgive myself. So easy and so convenient, it sounds, and am sure once absorbed it would be easier to practice as well, but what needed is the courage to kick start it, to inculcate it within, deep within and then practice through actions.

Certain situations bring us dilemma. We want it to happen but we don’t carry courage to deal with it, we don’t want it to happen though we know it is certain, we wish it happened but we cannot put effort to let it, we wish it had never happened but we can do nothing to prevent it….and then we are sad. We fight with God for not giving us what we wanted, but later we realize that we got was better than that something. It’s a matter of faith in God, perseverance in the deed and patience for HIS answers. Nothing stays, everything passes by with the ticking of the time. Every eye, every life is witness to it but still fails to accept it. Deep within, we all know that nothing is going to stay for ever, we fear it and hence feel the pain. The fact is not going to change, but we can view it differently. If we fit the same thought in another frame, it becomes much more acceptable and bearable. To accept and appreciate what we have been offered is more convincing and contenting than complaining about something which is not achieved. “No one gets anything, before the time and more than what is destined.”

There’s one common beautiful thought shared through different stories, languages and people, followed and spoken by influential personalities, and strongly believed by many, I would like to share one form of it over here. How true and genuine it is, remains a question but the idea is to share the message. It’s a story about a Jewish king named Solomon who one day, assigned a seemingly impossible task to his minister Benamiah Ben Yehoyada. He asked him to find and bring a ring which when wore would change the feeling of the person wearing it. One feeling sad should feel happy, and one feeling happy should feel very sad. He was given a time line which was about to finish, and he desperately hoped for a miracle. Before the time ended, he went to one of the poorest place in Jerusalem and while vaguely searching he saw an old merchant selling some goods. He thought of taking chance with him and asked for such a magic ring which would reverse the effect on the person wearing it. The poor old merchant smiled and gave him a ring after imbibing four letters on it. Benamiah was very happy to return victorious whereas the other ministers in the court made mockery of him on his arrival assuming he had returned empty handed as every one knew that there existed no such ring on earth. Benamiah smiled and offered the ring to his Master. As soon as Solomon read what was written, he stopped laughing and realized that life was transient and everything is temporary. Those words were, “ This too shall pass”. So true and so proven. And we know it too, the only need is to acknowledge it .

These words when read gave me tremendous strength and confidence and I wanted to believe in it always, as this may make easier to pass through the difficult times and may prevent from getting overwhelmed and expectant in good times and thus help to live life with more peace and serenity.