(228) Negative people

 I pity negative people. For whatever reason they act so negative about things, I really feel sad for them when others try to help them out by positive input and yet they stick to their pessimistic approach towards life. To be very precise, if I have to give the number there are at least four people in our extended families from either sides (mine and my husband’s family) , who are so very depressing human beings that at times I feel like going straight right into their face and tell them, “ see you are not helping anyone by being what you are, and adding to worse you are only leaving bad influence and dirty impact on others around you, besides torturing your own soul”…but gory limitations of the relationships! Alas! I simply have to ignore them, and am being specific, just ignore because I cannot avoid them.

I often tell Dheeraj when discussing about those people, that they need some help. How I wish I could be of some help to them. Recently, a person created so much mess during a family gathering that she pestered my mom to the tears. And when she had nothing else to fight about she dragged me in, (when I was already thousands of miles away here in Moscow) and told my mom that I did not inform her by personal call about my departure. God…I got so pissed off when I got to know about the same and could not help but intervene. It boils my blood when anyone tries and mess up with my parents or say a single word against them, to them or cause them any hurt by any means. My parents are so simple people that whole life they have practiced patience, tolerance and forgiveness and have always been helpful to others. I have tried to imbibe the same in me and do practice to a level, but not at all when it’s the question of my parent’s respect. With no fault of hers she heard all the nonsense just because the other person is a relative. Crap I say !!!

I called her (not my mom..but her..do not want to mention the relation)….and very nicely explained her  what mess she was creating without any reason and that no one is supposed to bother my mom for any reason whatsoever. Even I was welcomed by her, with lots of sarcasm and agony, but I gave across the message crisp and clear.

How far and for how many can this be done. Earlier in my brother’s wedding, chaos happened because of one aunt, and such things keep occurring on and off. Forget about people in families, I have faced and come across similar kind of people throughout at different stages and places in life till now. Some ditched and bitched after being friends, some got along just for selfish interests and some with whom I was never related in anyways, yet twisted and screwed ties with me just to satiate their negative egos and hurt me back. Hell with them.

At times, my wrath asks me to cut all bonds with such people, and at times it tells me to be patient and be helpful to them. To teach them peace, show them optimism and make them affirmative. Tough task though, hope I continue being constructive about life, people and bonds with them.

Keeping the fingers crossed that no one creates any hassle during my younger brother’s wedding. Cause if am there, and someone comes to thwart, I doubt I’ll be nicer anymore…sometimes you need to put your foot down and shout…enough is enough!!