When a theft occurs, the causing party rejoices the gain and
the losing party mourns the loss. Generally we associate the term burglary with
the theft of the material custodies. But we hardly think of it in terms of
something beyond the substance and object.
Last year, a house maid who was working at my place then,
had stolen my gold ring and few other things within a span of few days, when I was
busy preparing for my brother’s wedding. And when I realized, it was too late
and also, I had to leave for the wedding. Though the material loss hurt me for
a while, but what disturbed me more was the betrayal caused by her. I trusted
her blindly and so I do with every single maid whom I appoint for work. And I explain
the same to them while appointing that don’t breach my trust, if you need
something, tell me, and I will provide it in the best ways possible, and so I have
done whenever the need has arisen. Over a period of time, I forgot the incident
but it left me with a habit of being a little extra vigilant with housemaids,
which frankly speaking, is a pain.
Two days back, something that belonged to Charvi went
missing. No outsider had entered the house that day except my house maid. I called
her and enquired about the same and she denied of knowing anything about it. The
loss of the material thing did not really bothered me that much as did the breach
of trust once again. I was perturbed the whole day. I wanted to just speak it
out to her or at-least to someone that I am hurt. I wanted to ask her if she
had taken it and if yes, she could have asked for and I would have provided. She
shouldn’t have stolen that. I never keep a watch on her. I go for bath or do my
other work while she is around and never follow her to the door when she
leaves. I know, to some it may sound too rubbish of me to get emotional about
actions caused by people like housemaids, car cleaner and cook. But so I am. I get
marred by every single person and deceiving deed caused by them, if I have
planted faith in them. Often, my mom in law, my neighbor and friends asks me to
be more practical and less emotional when dealing with such people. I have been
criticized by other family members too at times, for treating my housemaids
like my family members. And yes, I have tried few times to remain more detached
with them, but I simply fail. I feel bad if I don’t talk to them every-day, if I
don’t listen to what they have to share and if I don’t treat them nicely. I am
even left hurt when I scold them once in a while. I try to pamper them out the other
day by doing something nice to them. And I am sure, there are many people like
me who treat these people the same way or in a much better way. I have seen my
mom taking so good care of those people working as domestic help at her house.
And perhaps that is the reason, why I feel hurt when I am
cheated. But this time, that particular feeling made me think in a completely
diverse mode. We see that, when people lose their material possession in theft
or other way, they become sad. And if that has been caused on purpose, the doer
enjoys and lauds the achievement. Same happens when instead of the object,
something ethereal, something non substantial, something non-enclose able is
lost or rather stolen. At this instance, the fracas of the mind reaches a very towering
level. The material loss may most often be paid back, but the immaterial loss
is very difficult to be settled off with anything physical. It takes time to overcome
the impacts of such loses. We observe that people who loses their loved ones,
experiences the same kind of sentiments. But that is something which is an
unchangeable natural process that every individual has to go through. Such people
may be helped out by soothing supports. Nevertheless, people whom we cause to
go through such agonies on purpose, by our spiteful and wounding acts, are the
ones who are the most indignant people and who faces the ill crisis of emotional
as well as mental setback. We rob them of their most precious state- ‘the
concord within’. And nothing really can help them much. Time to heal the sore
and the vigor to deposit the faith again, are the things which may help them.
Although I have always been in support of not hurting others
purposefully, I consciously elected this time, to be further watchful and more
careful while relating with others, and not to steal away someone’s peace of mind,
tranquility, equanimity in order to satiate my egocentricity, my diffidence, my
doubts, and my lonesomeness, all or any- if encountered ever. I do not have any
right to thieve someone’s harmony and leave them bothered, and for that matter,
no one has the right to do the above to any other person.
Let’s try and not whip away (intentionally or
unintentionally) other’s serenity.
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